How to date when you have kids



Being a single parent doesn’t mean a romantic life is beyond reach, merely that dating needs approaching differently. Single parents should acknowledge that going out clubbing and dancing till dawn are over – meeting a ‘special someone’ is far more likely to happen at the school gates, in the supermarket queue or increasingly, online.

Chances are, with one or more gorgeous children in tow, life is a busy whirlwind of school, social and sports engagements, homework, domestic drudgery and more – finding time to fit in some dating can prove challenging. That’s why many single parents choose the online dating option for its flexibility and convenience. At the end of a working day, followed by an evening of catering, organisation and childcare, it can sometimes seem there is no time left for a personal, ‘grown up’ life.

Many singles are extremely focussed on the happiness of their children, but when he or she feels down due to a lack of adult companionship, this can have a negative impact on the tight family unit. Who doesn’t feel better for a loving, rewarding relationship? Single parents are just as deserving of romance and fortunately it has become easier to find it with the advent of online dating.

Since its early days in the 1990s, online dating has evolved into a smart, safe and effective way of finding a partner. Internet agencies such as Global Personals (find out more on their Wikipedia) cater for all types of people from old to young, single or divorced, gay or straight, widow or widower, outdoorsy or stay-at home – working on the basis that for everybody, there is a somebody.

On the face of it, online dating is the perfect solution for busy single parents. After the children are in bed it’s possible to go online and socialise with like-minded people. No babysitters, totally controllable, secure and flexible, Internet dating takes much of the hassle out of finding a new friend. By getting to know potential suitors well before a first meeting, the chances of a successful outcome are increased.

Tell a potential date about children in the early stages, they are part of the package and it’s only fair to inform a new love interest of the situation. Be prepared for it to put some people off, and yet others won’t bat an eyelid – they are the keepers, and the one’s to focus on for the future. Any long-term relationship is only going to work if based on secure footings of honesty and clarity – with online dating there is potential for misreading situations and daters need to be conscious of such dangers.

It is equally important to keep children informed. Younger children are usually more receptive to a new person in their parent’s life, older kids being more resistant to change. That said, if children are kept in the loop there’s no reason a new partner wouldn’t be welcomed with open arms.

Having kids is no longer an excuse for sitting out of the dating game. With the help of online dating there has never been a simpler, more convenient way of searching for that special someone. Everybody deserves a little loving, and with online dating, it’s got so much easier to find…

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