I have always loved vintage clothing, but what makes shopping for it even better for me now is that my daughter comes along with me to go through flea markets, antique shows, car boots, and charity shops. She loves collecting mini pocketbooks and animal print clothing! Sharing your own hobby with your child is a joy like no other – believe me! It’s important that you try to make each visit or session short and fun for your child, otherwise they can get bored and fed up. In my case, I make games for her, like ‘whoever finds a vintage clothing stall first wins!’. Sharing your hobby with your child adds a whole new level to your relationship – you’ll love it. Nothing will make you and your child bond faster than building a passion, so here’s how to do it:
Let Them Hang out With You
To pique your child’s interest, you should first let them hang out with you as you pursue your passion, whatever it may be. This could be anything; letting your son stay with you in the garage while you play about with cars, or letting your daughter shop for vintage clothing with you like me. Eventually, they might start asking questions and want to help you or try something for themselves. To involve your child fully, make sure you tell them exactly what you’re doing. For example, if you’re cooking something, you could say ‘I’m sprinkling the herbs into the mince now and I’m going to combine everything with my hands’. When you get to one of your favourite parts, make sure you tell them why it’s one of your favourite parts and ask them if they want to help. Ask their opinion on things too, but don’t forget to use kid language to make them interested.
If you truly want your child to enjoy your hobby as much as you, you need to create an unpressured atmosphere and a sense of continuity throughout it all. You need to make time with your child a priority. This time doesn’t have to be particularly long, but you definitely need to set some time aside and stick to it.
Break it Down
If you give your child too much detail about the complex parts of your hobby, they’ll get frustrated as they won’t understand – even if you only collect dinky toys! How can you reduce your activity so it’s in the simplest form possible? Anything beyond your child’s ability will be a struggle and they won’t find it fun.
You could even consider what it was like for you when you first developed this passion, and write down the kind of pointers you could have used at the time. To make sure it makes sense, show it to a friend who doesn’t know anything about your hobby and see if it makes sense to them. Try to make as little assumptions as possible while writing the pointers.
No matter what, it’s important that you make this time relaxed, special, and fun. Don’t get angry with them if something goes wrong or you feel they are progressing slowly, or they will stop enjoying it. It’ll take time for them to get as good as you!